Melissa LaciOrg Psychologist
Loneliness at work · In practice

Rhythm beats events.

Connection is built by small things that keep happening. Micro-rituals are the smallest unit of that: five or ten minutes, on a cadence, where people are known by more than their output.

The event. One great Tuesday.
The rhythm. Small, weekly, reliable.
A week with rhythm in it
What makes one hold
Recurring

It happens on a known cadence, so nobody has to decide whether it is worth scheduling. A ritual people can predict is one they can rely on.

Meaningful

It connects people to something past the task list. A stand-up is not a ritual. Five minutes where one person is actually known is.

Built together

The team has some ownership of the form. Rituals handed down from a program office get performed. Rituals a team shaped get kept.

One example
Inside Scoop

Five minutes. One person. Their photos and the stories behind them. Once a week.

Vivek Murthy ran this ritual with his Surgeon General team and wrote that it changed how they saw each other.

Where teams get it wrong
Making it an event

One offsite resets nothing. A weekly five minutes changes what normal feels like.

Making it mandatory fun

Required participation produces attendance, not connection.

Skipping it when busy

The weeks you cancel it are the weeks it was doing the most work.

Keeping it generic

If it could run at any company, it will not mean much at yours.